Where are you from?
Born in california, raised in Chicago.
How do you spend your time?
These days I spend most my time as the Director of Operations at a Digital Communications Agency. I also co-run a monthly dance party called CumbiaSazo, a place where people come to dance and release and a space where I get to perform and express myself. I also have two kiddos and spend a lot of time thinking about my goals, saving money, and figuring out how I can end up in Hawaii surfing everyday.
What’s your story?
I have a lot of stories but for this purpose, I can talk a little about my story in terms of coming into my power. In 2014, I realized that I was allowing myself to be overly influenced by other people’s opinions of me and needed to own up to whatever I was doing that put me in unhealthy situations--whether with work, people, or family. A genuine need to be accepted from a young age turned into an unhealthy pattern overtime and I came to the conclusion that no one was going to fix it but me. That year I set an intention to reconcile the last 29 years of my life. Between that and creating a vision board for the first time, I was motivated to quit my job with no real plan, except to go to therapy and figure out my shit. I simply focused on doing my deeper inner work, healing old wounds, finding my power, and facing my own lack of self-love. It was really hard work, but I did it. Since then, I’ve been taking everything I learned and working to become more self-actualized, truly stand in my power, show myself kindness, let all the parts of myself exists, and begin to explore how I can begin to help others do the same.
Overall, my life story has been one of shifting from disempowering myself to fully being in my power. I’m a work in progress, but I’m grateful that my intentional work has resulted in a deep sense of peace, contentment, and self-love.
What’s your feminist story?
I have never thought of myself in terms of feminism or how I might fit into that conversation. I’ve already had so much to think through and work on in my life to get to this point, identifying with the term or the ideology hasn’t quite felt as relevant. I haven’t really had head space for it.
I can say that my story as a woman and knowing my worth has been a journey and one that I feel I’m still on. I took cues from my mother who I feel often struggled with both being strong, bold, adventurous, and courageous and doubtful, afraid, wounded, and weak. My work as a woman has not just been for me but to heal the wounds of the woman and men before me as well as thinking of my daughter and son’s future. Learning to unlearn our habits, heal our wounds, free ourselves from debt, change the course of our family history of poverty and addiction...that’s the weight and responsibility I feel I carry, which informs my womanhood. Maybe that is feminism? I don’t know.
What is feminism?
Seems like there are varying degrees of feminism and how people identify with it and live it out. If I had to define it myself, I think it’s the acknowledgement of the woman in her full essence and power.
What does "Feminist as Fuck" mean?
Feminist as Fuck for me means shamelessly being in your power and essence as a woman, no matter what. Not asking permission. Not operating within the bounds of our society, but taking ownership over one’s place as a woman and living fully in that. I think it’s just being in your skin without apologizing. Honestly, I think that idea applies to all genders and people. I relate to “feminist as fuck” much more than I do to “feminism."
What feminist topics are most important to you?
Again, I don’t know what the feminist conversation is. But things my peeps and I talk about are:
Being in our power
Manifesting our visions, dreams, and goals
Making shit happen through art, entrepreneurship, innovation, and healing
Being a leader
Creating the world we want to live and dance in
One thing I did recently start reading was “The Will to Change” by bell hooks. In it she talks about the importance of including men in the conversation and I want to say that I believe in that. I love the men in my life and I love my son. I think it’s really important to teach both young girls and young men about love, healing, feelings, respect, and kindness. If I’m to identify with or engage in a feminist centered conversation, I think including many voices is important and I believe that true healing comes when we understand at the core that we’re all a products of our society and we all have wounds. We have to understand that to make change we have to all participate in the conversation, not just to be heard but to listen as well.