Where are you from?
How do you spend your time?
With people. My life, work, and home is about sharing and building community and cultivating joy through connection. I throw parties, I bring people together. I’m a cancer so I just want to take care of everyone all the time. Also, I spend a lot of time in kaftans and jumpsuits.
What’s your story?
I’ve been in Chicago 13 years but I’m a tenth generation Vermonter; Vermonters are all crazy about letting everyone know who we are. I have an ongoing party called Slo ‘Mo, celebrating slow jams and community for five years this Summer. I produce and program events and parties with my company No Small Plans Productions. When I’m not throwing a party for work, I’m probably still throwing a party in my backyard with friends. I love people. I love seeing people connect and feel joy. I live for it.
What’s your feminist story?
During my “sexual awakening,” the tween years (I was young ok?) I found myself deep in the BMG/Columbia House CD scams where you buy one CD for like $20 and get five free. And I took full advantage. This is when I got really into the Lilith Fair genre of Sarah McLachlan, Tori Amos, Fiona Apple, etc – and I’d stay up all night getting really emo playing their music on the piano. But I was also simultaneously falling in love with empowered R&B divas like Aaliyah, Sade, MJB, Faith Evans, and so on, which has impacted my life and work still today. Music by women hugely influenced – as it continues to- my sense of sensuality and power.
I think the first “feminist act” for myself was when I pierced my nose when I was 15. My parents did just about everything to lure me to take it out but I refused on account of the mantra “my body, my choice!” It was around this time that I was also getting to know my queerness, and understanding that my sexuality – and ownership of it – was a feminist act. I didn’t want to be limited by one facet of someone’s identity to be attracted to them emotionally or sexually. I think I grasped that defiance pretty young.
I think when I was younger, and certainly now, I’ve just always been drawn toward and wanting to lift up women and femme people. As a queer woman, as a survivor of rape, as femme, I know that my confidence and passion in these identities – and unabashed display of them - can bolster others. I also feel like it’s our duty to stand up for and make room for each other. We need to constantly be advocating for each other, and not defining what it means to be a woman, or a feminist, for someone else. I believe feminism has to be deeply intersectional and reflective of the beautiful variety of women & femme people, as well as allies/advocates, that all belong under the umbrella of feminism.
What is feminism?
Feminism means different things to different folks but broadly I think it is the ideal of equality across genders, and mindfully and specifically across the gender spectrum and inclusive of people of different races, ethnicities, gender & sexual identities, ages, and abilities. I think feminism is respecting others bodies and the choices they make with them. Feminism is for, and should be practiced and celebrated by everyone. But we know this is an ideal, not a reality.
What does "Feminist as Fuck" mean?
Feminist as fuck is claiming my feminism for myself and what it means for me. My feminism is queer, loving, encouraging, and constantly pushing & evolving. My feminism is letting others love themselves, for themselves.
What feminist topics are most important to you?
The intersectionality of feminism and queerness, visibility of and advocating for women of color. The dismantling of one-dimensional and heteronormative ideals of what feminism looks like. It can look like a lot of things. No one’s feminism should be policed if its not harming someone else.